Comfort & Consolation | National Catholic Reporter by MSW. MGB: I find that those who oppose dealing compassionately with the divorced and remarried have the childish hope that the couples they united in Matrimony can somehow be brought back together based on, what morality, church discipline and a Warner Earhartesque honoring of their word. Such fairytales are rare. People get divorced for reasons, even if those reasons are only known to the (like the reasons for getting married in the first place. The current generations were raised in a culture of divorce, even among Catholics, and it is time to figure out why those divorces happen, give the victim of such things as abandonment (me), adultery, addiction, abuse and a casual opinon on th permanence of marriage and those who are the perpetrator. The offended party should have the right to forgive the offending spouse and get back together, forgive the offending spouse and let them marry again or deny forgiveness and make them either stay single or leave the Church to remarry.
Notice I mentioned no Annullment process or penitential marriage rite. That is because the marriage was between the couple, not the couple and the Church. The Church can witness the proceedings, but they DO NOT HAVE A DOG IN THE FIGHT. That and single clerics have no idea what is real in these things and no experience to draw on. Sorry, Michael, but neither do unmarried bloggers. Not even the Pope has done the late night fights or sleepless children thas is the entry to the core. Doctrine is not better than our experience, so it is fairly useless. This is why no one in my shoes gives it a tinker's dam. That should say something about these arguments - that they are meaningless if conducted by celibates. Please take note of that view when you return and have a happy Christmas with your father - who might have a better POV on marriage than all of us.
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